What if I told you that the version of you who has it all already exists, and it’s up to you to activate her- your future self activation?”
As mothers, we often find ourselves waiting for the right moment, the perfect circumstances, or the elusive “someday” to become the version of ourselves we’ve always dreamed of. But what if I told you that the future you—the confident, joyful, aligned woman you envision—already exists, and she’s waiting for you to step into her energy right now?
In today’s post, I’m going to walk you through how to activate your future self and start living your best life—today.
You Don’t Have to Wait to Become Her – How Future Self Activation Changes Your Reality
We often get stuck in the idea that the version of ourselves we aspire to be is something that will come later, after we’ve done the work, reached a certain goal, or finally “arrived.” But here’s the truth: Your future self—the one who has it all, the success, the ease, the joy, and the freedom—already exists.
The key to unlocking her lies not in waiting for the right moment, but in embodying her now.
I want to be clear: This is not about creating a list of external achievements, like hitting a certain salary, losing a set number of pounds, or reaching a milestone. Instead, it’s about stepping into the energy of who she is—the feelings, the essence, the pleasure. When you align with her energy, the rest follows naturally.
The Foundation: Pleasure and Joy as Non-Negotiables
Here’s the foundation of activating your future self: Pleasure and joy are non-negotiables.
From this moment on, it’s not about pushing through or doing things because you “have to” or “should.” It’s about doing things because they bring you joy, because they feel good, because they light you up. Pleasure is your compass, and joy is the fuel that powers your journey.
The more we live from this place, the more we feel aligned with our highest self, and the quicker we see the external changes we desire.
Step 1: Get Crystal Clear on Who She Is
Before you can activate your future self, you need to know her. What does she feel like? What’s the energy she radiates? What does her day look like, and how does she move through life? Let’s dive into some key questions that will help you get crystal clear on who she truly is:
- How does she start her day?
Is she waking up early to enjoy a quiet moment of meditation or stretching? Is she reaching for something nourishing, like a warm cup of tea or a fresh smoothie? - How does she feel when she gets dressed?
The clothes your future self wears are more than just fabric—they hold the energy of her confidence, power, and joy. What textures, colors, and fits bring her pleasure? How does her wardrobe make her feel? - How does she make decisions?
Does she decide quickly and confidently? Does she trust herself to make the best choices for her life without second-guessing? - How does she handle challenges?
Does she meet obstacles with grace and resilience? How does she approach struggles with a mindset of growth? - What are her non-negotiables?
What things must be present in her life, no matter what? Is it time for self-care, an abundant mindset, or meaningful connections with others?
You don’t have to wait for external circumstances to change to feel like your future self—you simply need to act as if.
Micro-action: Grab a journal and write a “Day in the Life” of your future self. Be as specific as possible, and really focus on how she feels in every moment, from waking up to how she interacts with the world.
Step 2: Act As If
This means embodying her energy right now. The way she speaks, the way she dresses, the decisions she makes—these are all reflections of her confidence and alignment. It’s not about waiting for the “right time” to step into her shoes; it’s about stepping into them now.
Reframe your thoughts:
- Instead of saying, “I hope this works,” say, “This is already working.”
- Instead of thinking, “I can’t afford that,” try, “How can I make this possible?”
- Instead of doubting yourself, say, “My confidence is enough.”
Micro-action: Today, do one thing that your future self would do. Wear an outfit that makes you feel radiant, make a decision quickly with confidence, or speak up for yourself in a way that aligns with your highest self.
Step 3: Regulate Your Nervous System to Hold More
Your future self isn’t hustling, panicking, or overworking. She is relaxed and holds her success with ease. To step into that version of yourself, your nervous system needs to feel safe with more—more money, more freedom, more joy. You need to expand your capacity to hold it.
Here are some tools to help you do just that:
- EFT Tapping: This is a great tool to release resistance and help clear any emotional blocks that might be holding you back from receiving what you desire.
- Breathwork: Take a moment to pause and breathe deeply, allowing your body to settle into a state of peace and openness.
- Somatic Movement: Dancing or any form of movement can help integrate the feeling of success and joy into your body.
- Meditation: Regular meditation helps you align with abundance and trust that you are worthy of receiving it.
Micro-action: Every morning, take at least five minutes to move, breathe, or tap into gratitude. Remember, when you embody gratitude for what you already have, you open the door to more.
Step 4: Make Decisions from Her Perspective
When you’re faced with a decision, ask yourself: What would my future self do?
Your future self trusts herself completely. She makes decisions with ease, knowing that she’s capable and deserving. If you’re stuck in overthinking or hesitation, try to pause and reflect:
- Would she doubt herself? (No.)
- Would she hesitate to take time off? (Nope.)
- Would she underprice her offers or downplay her worth? (Absolutely not.)
Start practicing this trust today by making decisions from the perspective of your future self.
Micro-action: Next time you’re faced with a decision, take a breath and ask yourself, “What would my future self do?” Then, trust your intuition and make the decision that aligns with her.
Step 5: Collapse the Timeline with Micro-Shifts
You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. The key to aligning with your future self is making small daily shifts that bring you into alignment with her energy. Every small choice you make—every act of self-love, every decision made from joy—brings you closer to her.
Micro-action: Today, identify one tiny thing you can do to step into your future self. It could be something as simple as smiling at yourself in the mirror or taking a break to do something that brings you joy. These micro-shifts are the key to collapsing the timeline between where you are now and where you want to be.
In Conclusion: Step Into the Energy of Your Future Self
The life you desire isn’t out of reach—it’s already waiting for you. When you start embodying your future self today, the universe has no choice but to align with your energy. Joy, pleasure, and alignment are the keys to unlocking the life you’ve always wanted.
Remember, this isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about reconnecting with the highest version of yourself that’s always been there, waiting for you to step into her power.
With love, from one wildly rooted Mama to another—keep growing and glowing.
Cathleen
